People with a commitment phobia long and want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long.
If pressed for a commitment, they are far more likely to leave the relationship than to make the commitment.
Another biological aspect to consider here is the fact that women have much more of a 'time limit' than men when it comes to these things.
That is to say that women have the menopause when it's too late for them to have children, whereas men can have children at any age, meaning that it's far less pressing for them.
When you find yourself in this position, it's easy and understandable to worry about whether you'll ever end up making him commit.
If you do find yourself in this situation then there is at least one piece of consolation that can make you feel better and that is to know that you are far from alone.
While they still experience love like anyone else, the feelings can be more intense and scary than they are for most people.
These feelings drive increased anxiety, which builds upon itself and snowballs as the relationship progresses — and the expectation of a commitment looms larger.
And while you won’t find “commitment phobia” in any diagnostic manual, it is a very real experience of anxiety and fear.
I'll finish with what you can do to get him to commit (it may surprise you! I'm going to address this page therefore to you - as a woman, but I realise that this is a huge generalisation.
Please forgive me, if you're of a different gender.
But you need to choose the right man to have patience with. He is simply not the right man for you, and there is someone out there for you.
Sometimes, no amount of patience and understanding will get a man to be the man you crave him to be. Someone whom you can truly live a full life with, a passionate life with, a man who truly fills you up with love, and who adores you like you are his princess.