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Of all the relationships you can get into as a girl, dating a married man is one of the worst kinds.
Q: When evaluating the health of a guy's relationship with his mom, what do you recommend a woman look for? Mandel: A guy with a healthy relationship with his mother can say "no" to her, make choices and decisions on his own, have an intimate relationship with a woman without fearing his mom will be jealous or intrude in his relationship, and likes it when mom is busy and enjoying her own life with or without a spouse.
If he still takes his laundry over to mom to have her do it, or has her cook weekly meals for him (and he doesn't have the flu), run!
Believe it or not, you might even have a lot of fun when on a blind date, and even if this person you are going to meet isn’t exactly a good match for you, you can still have a good time and perhaps make a new friend. One of the best things that can happen when on a blind date is scoring a free meal.
Q: What's the difference between a man having a "healthy" attachment to his mother and an "unhealthy" one? Mandel: While you might find it odd that he's calling or even visiting his mother daily, the frequency of contact a guy has with his mom doesn't determine how healthy or unhealthy his attachment is to her. If both mom and son have mutual respect for one another and have set good boundaries with each other (if he's able to say "Thanks but no thanks for the new underwear you bought me, Ma.Do we let our friends and family introduce us to someone they believe would be a good match for us? Some of them have found the love of their lives and some of them wished they had never gone out on that disastrous date.Blind dating has its pros and cons, and if you decide to try it out, there are certain things you need to avoid when you actually go out with someone you have never met before in your life.So, it becomes a mutually parasitic relationship; both mom and son are afraid to be independent of each other.In essence, your guy has become his mom's pseudo-husband, and consciously or unconsciously, he likes the importance of this role.